IN LOVE WITH A WOMAN???
A man in love with a woman wrote to Hadhrat Thaanwi (rahmatullah alayh): “I am in love with a widow. I have tried much to keep my gaze off her, but to no avail.”
In reply, Hadhrat (rahmatullah alayh) wrote: “Come with this letter to me.”
Thus, he came on the 12th Rajab and presented the letter. Hadhrat (rahmatullah alayh) said: “Assuming this woman’s husband was present, would you have gazed at her (in his presence)?”
He said: “No! I would have restrained my gaze.”
Hadhrat: “Alas! You do not honour and fear Allah Ta’ala as much as you fear her husband. It is indeed disgraceful. The reason for your attitude is the fear of immediate reaction of the husband. What! Is the punishment of Jahannum less than a thrashing which the husband would give? Is the hardship of courageously restraining the gaze more than the hardship of Jahannum? You may have come here thinking I would prescribe some wazifah. But, ailments are not cured with wazifah. Ignorant peers (who have appointed themselves as spiritual guides) have destroyed people. For everything they prescribe wazifah.
Wazifah is like a stimulant which gives energy without curing the illness. In fact, if a stimulant is taken during illness then in some cases the sickness worsens. A sickness is cured after taking bitter medicine.”
[MALFOOZAAT HAKEEMUL UMMAT]